My son is going to 3 years old, he has the same problem with your daughter, I don't know why he always cries and can't sleep well at night, I already tried many ways to help, i.e. body massage, foot massage, take a bath before sleep, make him tired and exhausted in day time but the problem has not yet been solved, that's why he is slim and difficult to gain weight, I am still seeking the solution for his sleeping problem.作者: anharstan 時間: 2010-6-29 17:08
其實所有大人，小朋友都會半夜醒，只是看你會不會自己再睡返。 這個問題首先要看小朋友的睡眠習慣：例-自己睡 or 跟大人睡? 她知不知到是自己睡的? 如果是要大人抱/"tum"到入睡才放在小床，那她半夜醒來看不見大人，她就會大哭要找大人。
小兒現在16個月大，之前15個月都有同你女兒一樣的問題。但最近1個月已完全不需要找大人，因為他已經學會令自己再入睡。是有方法的，但大人要狠心點。。。 I've tried many other methods for the past 15 months and only this one works. But first of all, you have to get the sleeping habit right. Tell me more about how you put her to sleep so that I may be able to give you advice.作者: carrie1386 時間: 2010-6-30 00:17
Carrie1386, your son's problem is that he doesn't want to go to sleep. But my son is very easy to go to sleep, and his problem was he would wake up and cry at night. Previously, whenever we put him down to his cot, he'd cry and cry. So that we could only put him to our bed, sleep with him, then when he fell asleep, we bring him back to his cot. Every night he woke up and cried, we then had to bring him to our bed again and sleep until the next morning. However, that's the past for us.
The method that worked on my son is:
Follow all our usual routine (eg. milk, reading, washing, etc) before going to bed. Then I put him down to his cot, and I sit on a chair next to his cot and DO NOT LET HIM SEE MY FACE (facing back to him). He would stand up and cry and try to grab me. But I just ignore him. After a while, he realized that crying is useless, and he actually was sleepy..... then he lied down and went to sleep. When he woke up at mid-night, I did the same, sit next to him and facing back to him. By doing this, he knows YOU ARE THERE, so that he feels secured.
In my experience, I did this for one night (it took him about 25 min of crying and stand up and lie down and stand up and lie down....... 是有D心疼的), then the next night he didn't struggle when we put him to his cot, and didn't even wake up in the mid-night. Now, I can hear he wakes up in the mid-night from time to time, and he may cry for a few seconds. But he would go back to sleep after a little while. We now also put a straw cup (water) next to his cot, and he would wake up in the mid-night and drink some water and go back to sleep on his own.
You can try this but you have to be stiff hearted and be patient. It may takes you few weeks to work, but I think for his long term benefit, it is worthwhile.
~~作者: carrie1386 時間: 2010-7-1 03:27
Thanks much, anharstan. it's very useful. I think it can be applied to both my son and daughter as well. Thx again.作者: mandy 時間: 2010-7-10 00:08
I agree with Mandy. Use the method you think is the best method to BB. Many people do not agree to hold BB when he cry. I do not agree this method is not useful. I also try to let him cry. But the result is he will cry for an hour, cry loudly, face red. cannot sleep... So we choose to hold him and then he will sleep again after 15 miuntes or the most is half an hour. The parent will know which method is the best to BB. Besides, all mothers don't give up. Time will pass and BB will better in future. Add oil la!
