標題: maid's problem [打印本頁] 作者: sidneywong 時間: 2010-1-14 18:20 標題: maid's problem
Hi,
My maid & daughter (2 years old) loves each other very much. My kid likes the maid the most though I am a house-wife.
I have 2 questions:
1. My maid sometimes plays in these ways: take the thing from my kid's hand or stop her to walk. My maid feels it funny but my kid doesn't it it. Then my kid yells or shows that she's not happy with it. Actually, I don't want my kid to yell but in most cases, I won't stop my maid. Because I want my kid face different people.
But will the "yell level" affect the kid's EQ ? OR I overworry. Pls adv, tks.
Well, sometimes my maid plays with her & make my kid laugh a lot.
2. When my baby was born, I's sick & couldn't take care of her for 2 months. During that moment, my maid took care of her. So far, my maid feed my baby for the rice & the milk in the morning.
Besides, I am a person is quite serious & can't make the kid laugh as same as the maid does. So, my kid needs the maid more than me sometimes. It make me unhappy.
In my kid's mind, I am the number 2 while my maid is number 1.
Pls adv how I can change the situation.
best regards,
Sidney作者: s1005959 時間: 2010-1-14 21:46
Hi Sidney,
I think you should be really glad to have such maid. My situation was completely different which made me change 10 maids within 1 year. That was totally a nightmare. If your maid can handle the kids so well, go out to take a part time job or some hobbies, have some dates with your hubble, or just to meet some old and new friends. Just have some fun outside your home and you will become a person with more fun too. You are always number 1 in your kids' mind in the long haul. The maid will eventually go away but you will be there forever, even after you go to heaven. So, don't be silly. You are thinking too much!! I wish I had a maid like yours who can handle the kids so very well!!!!!!!!!!!!!!作者: ikub08 時間: 2010-1-14 23:39
Hi Sydney
Dont'be too worry. I came across the same case like you around 3 years ago. Now my daughter is 5 years old. The difference is I was not jealous at my maid and I'm not a housewife at that time. I'm that kind of mum who does not know how to make kids laughing. At that time, my maid is the number one in my daughter's mind and my hubby is the number two. If your maid does not treat you kid well, your kid can feel it. When she becomes elder, she will know you are really concerned and "over-worried" on her. I remember when she was 4 years old, she complained that my maid(same person) ignored her. She even asked me to change my maid if my maid had no improvement. Now she loves me so much. I become the number one in her mind.作者: mrsclee 時間: 2010-1-15 09:49
