My 14 years old has trouble to handle his emotion

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發表於 2010-7-20 10:03 | 只看該作者

He is actually with school program in another country currently. Having emotion problem and crying every day when he calls. I really need immediate help, how I can talk to him such that he can express himself better to handle his current emotions?

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發表於 2010-7-20 11:04 | 只看該作者

我需要多一點資料。您介不介意致電 2994-2008 給我？ (說找麥先生就可以了)

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發表於 2010-7-20 11:39 | 只看該作者

麥先生, thank you for your time. I will try all your advices.

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發表於 2010-7-20 11:50 | 只看該作者

唔使客氣

。需要幫忙再致電給我吧！

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發表於 2010-7-20 16:18 | 只看該作者

會唔會係同壓力有關? 各方面既壓力令佢搵唔到自己, 亦冇時間去思考點樣可以宣洩, 所以用喊, 或者我地認為唔適合既方法去表達?

多d同佢傾下計, 有冇幫助?

除左正常既功課/課外活動以外, 有冇時間比佢, 係可以自己中意做咩就比佢做? 例如玩 (包括打籃球, 游水, 甚至打機, 當然要視乎個人喜好), 同朋友去街, 或者比d時間佢發夢, etc?

希望以上的可以幫你搵到佢問題所在, 然後再諗方法去幫佢........

祝您身體健康!

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發表於 2010-7-20 17:40 | 只看該作者

I don't think it is relating to school pressure or work pressure as we don't push him at all, and he seems studying in a easy way also. Since he starts secondary school, he doesn't have much activities, I let him do what he wants. So, he only has swimming and table tennis and pretty much goes back home after school.

After talking to 麥先生, I now realize his 抗逆力 is very low. So, he doesn't' know what to do, then cry! I think I will wait until he comes back, and work together on this. Try to actively look for some activities, courses etc for him such that he can improve his 抗逆力. However, I am still not sure what activities that he can do it regularly to achieve this? I wonder if engaging in volunteer works will help?

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發表於 2010-7-21 13:41 | 只看該作者

hello s1013765,

did you have religion ?
not sure it's workable or not, i only become as Catholic not more than 3 months, but i have studied almost 2 years as 慕道, i feels peaceful & i can release pressure when I attend mass & prayer to God, our God father & our Catholic members are enthusiasm to help each other, so we are feel so warm together.

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發表於 2010-7-21 13:56 | 只看該作者

I don't think it is relating to school pressure or work pressure as we don't push him at all, and he seems studying in a easy way also. Since he starts secondary school, he doesn't have much activitie ...
s1013765 發表於 2010-7-20 17:40

剛pm 了三篇文章給您。希望您可以透過那三篇文章，參透一下小朋友問題的根源吧！

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發表於 2010-7-21 15:59 | 只看該作者

s1010330, thanks for your advice. I do think about going to church before, not because his problem but because I often lose my patience when dealing with 3 boys every day. So, I do wonder if religious would help me to have peaceful minds, more patient attitude,etc

Thanks again, 麥先生. I did read 2 of the passages you sent me. For my boys, I don't do the trivial small things for them at all, when they are about 5-6 yrs old, I have them to take shower themselves, get ready own school bags etc. But, I have to admit for academic arrangement, test preparation, etc things that I think it is important, I did do a lot for them. When he needs advice, I often give him solutions/advices right away instead of leading him to find out his own solutions.....

I am learning and using different approaches now with my other 2 boys. But my eldest son, I hope it is not too late, we will work it out together.

Thanks again for all of your help!

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發表於 2010-7-21 17:18 | 只看該作者

s1010330, thanks for your advice. I do think about going to church before, not because his problem but because I often lose my patience when dealing with 3 boys every day. So, I do wonder if religious ...
s1013765 發表於 2010-7-21 15:59

對。放手給他多點空間，讓他嘗試自己處理問題吧

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